With conversations about representation growing—President Trump’s most recent attack against four junior congresswomen being the newest example of growing racial tensions here in the US—it’s...
A Rallying Call to the LGBTQ+ Community During Pride Month As June begins to wind down, so does a month dedicated to the LGBTQ+ community. Pride Month has been confirmed by two Democratic...
Pride Month is among us and, along with my seasonal allergies, the collective insecurities of gay men everywhere are flaring as washboard abs, rock solid bums, and Johnny Bravo body-types emerge...
On April 10th, 2019 I had the distinct pleasure of having an article featured in the “At War” section of the New York Times. Fewer things have ever brought me so much pride or been so deeply...

The Little Mermaid, Scarlett Johansson, and Race-Based Casting in Hollywood

Men's Journal - Jul 22, 2019

Remembering the Reason for The Riots: Looking back at Queer History in the US

Lifestyle - Jun 21, 2019

When Pride Month Means 30 Days of Heightened Body Insecurity

Self-Improvement - Jun 14, 2019

Why I Still Believe in Military Service for the LGBTQ+ Community

lgbtq - Apr 24, 2019

The Little Mermaid, Scarlett Johansson, and Race-Based Casting in Hollywood

Men's Journal - Jul 22, 2019
With conversations about representation growing—President Trump’s most recent attack against four junior congresswomen being the newest example of growing racial tensions here...

Remembering the Reason for The Riots: Looking back at Queer History in the US

Lifestyle - Jun 21, 2019
A Rallying Call to the LGBTQ+ Community During Pride Month As June begins to wind down, so does a month dedicated to the LGBTQ+ community. Pride Month has been confirmed by...

When Pride Month Means 30 Days of Heightened Body Insecurity

Self-Improvement - Jun 14, 2019
Pride Month is among us and, along with my seasonal allergies, the collective insecurities of gay men everywhere are flaring as washboard abs, rock solid bums, and Johnny Bravo...

Why I Still Believe in Military Service for the LGBTQ+ Community

lgbtq - Apr 24, 2019
On April 10th, 2019 I had the distinct pleasure of having an article featured in the “At War” section of the New York Times. Fewer things have ever brought me so much pride or...

Necko L. Fanning

Necko is a veteran, LGBT activist, and writer. In addition to his work as a freelancer Necko writes fiction with the purposes of providing strong LGBT and female protagonists to the world. More of his work can be found at neckofanning.com.
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