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Necko L. Fanning - Jul 6, 2018

Tackling Sexual Insecurity Myths

As men there’s a certain amount of stigma and bravado that surrounds topics like sexual health and satisfaction. In a day and age where misinformation can metamorphosis into fact it’s more important than ever that we discuss men’s sexual activities. If you’ve ever felt uncertain or uncomfortable about the size, performance, or endurance of your Johnson then hopefully this clears things up a bit!

Is 6.5 Inches Really the Average Length?

Lying about how big the tool we’re packing is probably the oldest and most prevalent lie every told. And somehow during all these eons of lying a myth was distilled as fact: that the average length of the male penis was 6.5 inches in length.

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Well, according to Dr. David Veale—a South London psychiatrist—and his team, this couldn’t be farther from the truth…by over an inch! Published in the British Journal of Urology International, Dr. Veale’s team compiled data from 17 research sources and over 15, 500 men to bring us the truth. According to their research the average length of the male penis when erect is actually 5.16 inches. 

How Long Should Sex Last?

The second greatest lie that men like to tell has to do with their god-like endurance. We’ve all heard the stories about sex that has lasted hours and stared in awe (and most likely suspicion) at the friends who’ve regaled us with their tales of sexual prowess. But what’s the truth? From penetration to ejaculation how long does the average man really last?

According to Dr. Brendan Zietsch, a Canadian psychologist based out of the University of Queensland, it’s much, much shorter than that. Zietsch had over 500 heterosexual couples time themselves (using stopwatches) and then compiled the data to give us an average. He found that while there were a few people that were able to get close to the hour mark, the average length of time was actually 5.4 minutes.

How Common is Erectile Dysfunction?

Depending on how long you’ve been sexually active you may or may not have experienced difficulty “getting it up”. It happens to everyone: especially after a night of heavy drinking! But what about when it happens all the time? How common is ED and what causes it?

According to a study done at the Cleveland Clinic, as many as 52 percent of men have or do experience erectile dysfunction. They go on to say that 40 percent of forty year-old men, and 70 percent of seventy year-old men are affected by ED. This means a 1 percent increase in the probability that you will be affected starting from the time you turn 40. ED is, simply put, a common occurrence of growing old. 

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But it can also affect men of much younger ages. This is typically as a result of medications (such as for blood pressure, anxiety, and depression) or other medical disorders. Regardless, treatment plans exist and relatively easy to access through a primary health care provider!

Condoms: A Total Boner Killer?

Let’s take a moment to talk about the use of condoms during sex. As long as there have been condoms there have been bemoaning their use. Whether it’s because they’re too tight, don’t feel “natural”, or kill the sensitivity during sex the laundry list of reasons that men shy away from condom use is extensive.

I’ll take a moment to admit that I’ve been one of these men. I hated condoms until I met a guy who set me straight. Many of the reasons that men complain about condoms stems directly from the fact that we just aren’t educated on them properly and that—historically—the shape and thickness of condoms hasn’t been conducive to continual usage. Thankfully we’ve entered a day and age where condoms now come in a myriad of sizes, shapes, and thickness.

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For those of you who feel as if the condom feels too tight, explore larger condoms such as Magnum. For those of us to felt as if their sensitivity was completely stripped the second they put a condom on, explore thin or so-called “bare” condoms. And finally, for those that simply hate the unnatural feel, try talking to your sexual partners about female condoms. Female condoms are actually okay to use for anal sex as well and are a good compromise for homosexual and heterosexual sexual partners alike.

Written by Necko L. Fanning

Necko is a veteran, LGBT activist, and writer. In addition to his work as a freelancer Necko writes fiction with the purposes of providing strong LGBT and female protagonists to the world. More of his work can be found at neckofanning.com.

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